Having fun – the long term solution to successful gaming.

There’s one key element that seems to missing from the lives of most of the guys I meet. It’s an element that’s so fundamental to our very existence – I find it truly amazing it could be missing from anyone’s game – and even more so, out of their lives. That element, my friends – is HAVING FUN!

That’s right…. Fun! Think back: It’s probably your earliest memory – and your best!

Your whole life revolved around it for probably 20 years or so from age 2 onwards. (0-2 you were likely having fun, but not on purpose as you were too busy pissing and shitting yourself) :P

Heck – I’ve been going from age 2 to now…. And I don’t plan on stopping any time soon. So – the questions is – what’s happened that stops people from having fun? The answer is…. life happened! That’s right! Making friends, getting into University, getting a job, earning the rent, getting debt, paying off debt, getting fired, buying a house, and so on and so forth.

What happened? Life happened.

And amazingly, having a good time (along with your libido) goes out the window!  And even more amazingly – most people let it go!

Well I say, fuck that!

Every time I leave the house, my goal isn’t to pick up girls.  I’ve got a life. My mission is to have fun while I’m living that life. My mindset when I leave the house is one of playful curiosity, and merriment. My goal, if any – is to entertain myself above all others.  It’s not even a goal – it’s a way of being. It really is that simple. I’m out to enjoy myself. Whether out on my own, or with friends. Our goal is the pure amusement of our own group – and anyone else who decides to come along for the ride.

I’ve actually noticed that If I could out there with the attitude that I’m going to “Pick up chicks” I usually don’t do as well as if I go out seeking to merely entertain myself   For a multitude of reasons you’re much more likely to have success if you’re going about your daily life and approaching only when you are truly compelled to do so.

First off, some women can tell if you’re an approach machine!

That’s right! If you head out specifically to “pick up” and approach lots of girls, you may indeed get into a pretty smooth chatty state. This can be advantageous, to a point. However, women can sense if this is something you do often.  Also, they can feel if you’ve got a “goal” while chatting to them. On a couple of occasions I’ve had women ask “How often do you do this?” …. Though I’m sure many more women have thought this than have actually verbalized it.

Furthermore, I find that when I’m out with the goal of “picking up”, the quality of girls I approach goes down.  This means, the passion and energy that I put into each interaction will also go down. Almost as if by magic, women can tell how interested in them a guy really is. If you’re just “going through the motions” they’ll know and dismiss you out of hand.  I don’t know how they do it, but they do!

Most guys are too busy worrying whether they can “get somewhere” with the girls, that this usually gets in the way of having any success. If you change your goal to having fun instead of trying to get laid – you will actually massively increase your chances of both – and drastically reduce any nights you might look back on as unsuccessful. How can you ever not succeed if your goal was merely your own self amusement? How can you ever see any interaction as a rejection if you were only trying to spread the joy of “fun?”

Furthermore: If your goal is to have fun – YOU will never be rejected.  It’s impossible for a woman to reject fun – and if she does, what the hell do you want with her anyways? By opening up with good natured humour,  or sillyness; not only are you being completely original – you’ll find yourself hooking up with the kind of girl that you want! The beauty of my approach is, I’m automatically qualifying for the type of women I’m looking for! If I’m not funny to them – They’re not attractive to me!

So what do I do when I’m out there entertaining myself? Anything and everything

I’ll do silly shit.  I’ll exaggerate, presume, misunderstand. I’ll joke, bump into – pretend steal. I’ll use cheesy pick up lines – flirt with men. I’ll accuse girls of hitting on me.  Absolutely anything that’s ridiculous, outrageous, out of the ordinary. Now, I’m not saying this stuff is for anyone.

You may not necessarily want to scare the shit out of girls on the street, or pick them up and run off with them. Some of the stuff I get up to takes a fair bit of calibration. But, for starters, anyone can adopt a more playful attitude. Anyone can decide to be more spontaneous, to go against the boring flow of society.  Here’s a few fun openers I use,  for my own amusement.

“Excuse me – I just have to tell you, you’re the second cutest girl I’ve ever seen!”

“Hey – can you help me? I’m trying to find some girls that are as cute as you guys, but rich. I’m looking for a sugar mommy!”

“Hey… you look just like …  my future ex wife. Shall we just get married and get this over with?

Can you see how these types of openers set up a fun frame straight away? There’s only 2 ways this interaction can go – it can be a good time, or you’ll get blown out straight away. Which is exactly what I want! I don’t want to waste time on girls that aren’t my type – the fun type!

I’ve got certain “Fun” based principles I’ve learned to follow inherently so as to increase my chances of meeting a fantastic girl. These are:

• Approach out of a genuine need to express yourself, and from a place of curiosity, fun, and love.

• Smile. Always be smiling when you approach anybody, for anything. This shows that you are friendly, having fun – and that you’re not a threat. This is a universal rule and applies to meeting all people, in all situations.

• Offer value in the form of fun. This can be a friendly chat, a well timed compliment – or an entertaining (or enlightening) story! I make girls smile because it makes me feel good…. Not because I want something from them!

• Assume everyone is friendly initially, and behave as such. If someone doesn’t want to chat, they’ll let you know.
• Don’t let the boring/serious girls that blow you out affect your state, or your belief system. Lots of girls out there aren’t up for a good time. It’s their loss, and has nothing to do with you. It’s better to screen for these girls early avoid them, than to try and with them over.  Remember: For every 10 minutes you spend plowing on some girl you’re not really compatible with – is time you could have spent meeting a whole bunch of other women – one of whom could be exactly the type you’ve been looking for. Or even *gasp* … you’re future ex wife ;)

A lot of advice dolled about in the community is rubbish – but some of it gold. And one of those golden nuggets is this:

“Whatever was fun when you were a kid, is fun now”

That advice is pure 100% absolutely right!  Bring back the child – bring back the fun. ENJOY YOURSELVES! And you’ll attract awesome girls!

I find the best strategy is to keep doing goofy stuff and having fun all the time.  Having fun should be a automatic habit – like brushing your teeth (except, you should do it much more than twice a day!)

Staying in this mindset will insure that you’re always connecting with other like minded people throughout your day.  That’s why I get silly right at the start of any interaction. If they aren’t up for it – it’s got nothing to do with me. It’s got to do with them not being connected to their inner child. I feel awfully sorry for these women. Some may never enjoy the best things life has got to offer – including sex! They’re the walking dead… and Sasha don’t fuck with zombies!

Fall in love with the process of being social. Just get out there and enjoy yourself. Make your mission to have a good time! Be selfish – give value! The rest will come…

Sasha

Original post on Dec 30^th – 2007 re-edited May 15^th 2008

I was walking down the street just outside Wood Green tube station this man (who was clearly homeless) started to approach me. I had this really powerful feeling -  I knew that he was going to ask for money.  He had this desperate look in his eye – I could tell he wanted something just by looking at his eyes, I didn’t need his clothes as a clue.  It was clear he was defeated man from his body language. His shoulders were slumped and his face was just giving it all away. He looked hopeless.  I knew he’d been turned down 100 times already that day and it made it really easy for me to do the same.  He was expecting it.  I shook my head no even before he asked me for money and he just sauntered along, off to his next target.  He wasn’t persistent at and I didn’t expect he would be.

Do you see where I’m going with this?

I just though to myself “Can you imagine if this guy was trying to pick up?”

This guy even with the best clothes and clean shaven and washed would have no chance at all.

He was coming in with “Beggar’s frame” … he’d already been rejected and he was expecting to get rejected again.  Not a hint of confidence at all. Any woman would just think “If everyone else has shot him down, I don’t want him either!” … he could be the most amazing human being in the world, but with body language and vibe that he was projecting, nobody is ever going to find out! He’s never going to get past the approach…

Ah that brings me to the next point. Vibe. It wasn’t just his physicality that put me off him. It was his overall…. Being.  I could just feel it.  He certainly wasn’t in state. He was very, very far from being in state.  He was anti state!  I felt that just as much as I noticed his defeated body language.

When a bum approaches us (or a bumette – God knows I want to be PC,) think about how easily we just say “no” and wave them away.  It’s automatic. There’s no thought process required. We see them coming and know instinctually they are low value and we just shoo them off!  It’s just as easy for a hot girl to shoo you away as well! And it happens almost as automatically.
Think how much easier you make it for a woman to dismiss you in such a manner if you come in with crappy body language!

So for all you new guys (everyone really) next time you approach a set, keep that image of that poor, stinky, defeated, hopeless man in your mind.  Think about his sorrowful, helpless eyes.  His scruffy, unshaven face.  His swollen, hungry belly and his slumped shoulders.  His shaky hand he got from Vietnam in ‘69.  (He pees himself whenever there’s a loud noise.)

Being itself is his ultimate defeat.

Don’t be that man.   Avoid Beggars frame when you approach a set at all costs… Hell, avoid it altogether!

Just to summarize – things to avoid:

-Looking down/avoiding eye contact

-Shoulders slumped

-Being twitchy/creepy

-Focusing on negative thoughts/ on past failure

-Drug and alcohol abuse

-Not bathing for weeks

That last one was a joke, folks

Hopefully I don’t have to tell anyone out there to avoid walking around unabated in torn up raggedy clothes. But hey – I’ve met a homeless PUA before so you never know…. ;)

Sasha

Have you Ever spoken to a girl…. She laughs, or smiles … and then walks away?? What is their PROBLEM?? This used to really frustrate me a LOT – more than frustrate, this used to kill me.

I’d lay in bed at night thinking … WHY?? I know she liked me. What is going on?

Well – it’s taken me a year and a half, and a ton of interactions. But I think I’ve figured it out – for the most part. Here are a few some reasons women may not stop to have a chat. The first few a fairly obvious… the last few I’m going to discuss in detail….

• Sometimes girls have somewhere to be
• Sometimes they have boyfriends and are just not interested in flirting
• Some girls are just scared and/or taught not to talk to men they don’t know
• Some girls don’t know how to react to being picked up in broad daylight
• Some girls are afraid of messing up the interaction
• Some girls don’t want to feel slutty by being picked up easily

These are all fine and dandy. But what about when they obviously like you…. What about when they give you clear ioi’s and still walk away?

Here’s a crazy thought. What if the very reason they’re not stopping to talk to us is because they might be attracted?

WHAT?? Sounds counter intuitive right? Surely if someone LIKES you they would want to talk to you?? Nope – not necessarily!

Here’s the meat of it – Girls simply do not know how to react when a guy hits on them on the street, in broad daylight. It’s not really in their reality to BE picked up by a guy (no matter how cute/interesting/funny/whatever) in broad daylight. It’s out of their comfort zone. In fact, if they found you clearly unattractive in a lot of cases the conversation may actually last longer. They’re not initially as nervous to talk to you whatsoever and a lot of girls will have a chat. But if you’re cute and you’re flirty of the top – they may very well simply just run away. This used to drive me CRAZY until I actually figure out what was going on.

Here’s the rub: Sometimes they’ll walk away because they are interested and are afraid that they may actually say the wrong thing and mess it up. Sound crazy?

Let me ask you this: How many times have you opened a hot girl in a club – I mean a really hot girl: It’s going ok and as soon as you get a bit of some sort of negative (or even perceived) negative feedback you bail out? Maybe she just gives you a funny look, or doesn’t reply to your question and you excuse yourself? Why? Because you were afraid of being blown out. Well guess what: Women are just as afraid of being blown out if they are attracted to you! Many will AVOID talking to you altogether because they are out of their comfort zone and don’t want to get blown out!

Have you ever had a girl that you like hit on you and you totally messed it up because you were so surprised, you didn’t know what to do in the moment? Women are no different in this respect- Especially in the day time.

Think about it – what are they used to? Where are women in comfortable and in command? Nightclubs, of course.

They’re all dressed up. They’ve got makeup on. It’s dark. They look hot. Guys are hitting on them, buying them drinks right, left and centre. They know how to handle themselves. A 19 year old girl has been hit on hundreds of times already. Every attractive girl in the club is in her element. They thrive in the club. They’re not even part of the matrix – they are the matrix. Everything in the club revolves around men. All the men are there, all the drinks are sold, all everything that goes down in that clubs is for them and they know it!

So if they don’t want to talk to you it’s very easy for them to dismiss you. They can ignore you, or make a bitchy face, just turn to their friends. Or they can outright tell you to piss off.

But – on the street. They got nothing. No defenses, friends, no fallbacks. They haven’t got the power. The only thing they can do is just pretend it didn’t happen and keep walking. Or just smile and keep moving. Or mutter “thanks!” and just run along. Pretty lame huh? But that’s how they deal with it quite frequently. I have to say it, but most women have little game and simply lack the tools to deal with the situation. Why would they have game, they’ve never had to make an approach their entire lives!

Another key reason that women (while giving you signals that she likes you) will still walk away from you is this:

Most women aren’t looking to get laid by anyone new.

I know – it hurts. I wish it weren’t that way. But they’re not. MOST hot girls either have a boyfriend, or at least one or two guys they are sleeping with. That’s just the cold hard reality of it. At the absolute least there are several guys hanging around her or guy “Friends” that are trying to sleep with her. So when she sees you she’s not thinking “hey maybe this is an amazing guy I could date” … usually it doesn’t even cross their mind. The only way to make them want YOU is for them to get to know you. And for this to happen, you need to have a nice, long chat with them – before they can get away!

Now – of course I’ve come up with a few tactics that minimize their ability to walk away. Nothing fancy but they work. Let’s get down to it.

1. Don’t just start talking to them about any random bullshit when you approach them. This is a spot where situational openers fail terribly. If a woman is on the move (see walking) don’t use a situational opener. Even if it’s absolutely brilliant. I’ve said the absolutely perfect, most hilarious thing to many a beauty – only to have them laugh out loud and keep walking. Of course you can chase after them but it’s an uphill battle (more on that later) … don’t be a bitch – open them direct so they either talk to you or blow you out. This is not the time for situational stuff. It’s great when it works or if they are immobile but forget it if they’re moving. If you want to go indirect – that’s fine too, but just stay away from the situational stuff for girls on the move.
2. Touchy touchy! INSTA kino. I’m not talking about sexual touch here – just a friendly touch on the elbow to get their attention. Once again if you just start talking – no matter how brilliant the words coming out of your mouth are – they may just act like they didn’t hear it and keep walking. Or they may actually not hear you – or not be sure you’re even talking to them. They don’t know you – maybe you were talking to someone else? They’re in a rush! They’ve got places to be – so why stop to enquire what you’re on about? Maybe you’re a crazy person. Better to keep walking. However if you TOUCH them and start talking they CANNOT ignore you. They just can’t. They can’t pretend they don’t know you’re talking to them. To keep walking would just be a huge social faux pas which again people are trained not to commit. She HAS to talk to you. Even if all she says is “piss off!” … I’ll take that over being ignored any day. At least it counts as an interaction. And it gives me something to joke around about with my buddies!
3. Physically get in their way and prevent them from leaving. That’s right. I said it! I’ve experimented on loads of different ways of stopping girls and this is actually the most effective. Especially if you are struggling with getting girls to stop … trying this is an absolute must! Now, don’t just jump out in front of them. That’s liable to get you kicked in the nuts! But, just overtake them from the side, step RIGHT in front of them as you grab their shoulder and …. Say what you gotta say! Now, this doesn’t guarantee she won’t walk away – but it DOES virtually guarantee they’ll HEAR the opener – and know you’re talking to them. IF they still make a move… if you’ve gotten any IOI’s you RE OPEN! (that means a laugh, a smile, a look. ANY excuse. RE OPEN!

Right – so – once you stop them and touch them, you just have to get them TALKING! The opener almost doesn’t matter so long as you’re smiling and have a good fun vibe. It helps if you are calm and collected. There’s a billion openers online. Try a few out or just go with “Hi – I’m xxx – I just thought you looked adorable/friendly/interesting and I wanted to meet you. What are you up to today?”

Now a LOT of girls are going to try and get away from you right there – THIS is the time to plow, see? Because if they cut the thread and leave at this point – it’s not because they don’t like YOU. They don’t even KNOW you. So you gotta suck them in to give yourself a shot.

PUA (kino) “Hi – You’re so hot you just made me shit my pants. You owe me $4 for new underwear!!”

Hb – “haha you’re crazy!” (turns to walk off)

Sasha “Hey wait – I just HAVE to know your name!”

Hb – I’m Christiana

Sasha (extends hand) “Cool name. I’m Sasha. Let me guess….. you’re frommmm……. Nigeria right?”

Christana “What?? I’m from here. I’m white, are you crazy?”

Sasha “hehe I know. I just wanted to see you smile. You’ve got a great smile. Where are you going?”

Christiana “Oh I’m going to meet my friend!”

Sasha “Cool. I just came from the gym. You won’t believe what happened to me – I joined a gay gym! I’m the only straight guy in there! Every time I bend over…”

BooM! I’m away. The key is getting past the critical moment at the beginning where THE MAJORITY of girls try and get away. Not to brag, but I’m a good looking guy. I dress press pretty funky most of the time. And guess what? Most gorgeous girls try and walk away from me around HALF the time. You just have to TALK. Open your gabber and let ‘er rip! That’s all it takes. Don’t do anything retarded – and TALK! That example up there is a simple one – that’s pretty much how the start of most of my sets go. I open direct with something funny – the girls laugh, or say “thanks” and try and walk off. Either way I demand their name…. then I’ll just assume something about them. Maybe call it a cold read or whatever…. Then just see what they’re up to …. If they tell me I take that as an invitation to tell them what I’m up to. Then I’ll go into one of my hook stories. If you don’t know what hook stories are go and read my “hook theory” article.

But there you have it: GIRLS WHO LIKE YOU WILL WALK AWAY FROM YOU ALL THE TIME.

Go after them.

Now – the next thing. Sometimes they’ll laugh and you’ll ask their name and they’ll just say “I’ve got to go I’m late!” u know what u do? You RE OPEN!

That’s right! Just chase after them. If they’re late, you say “No problem. I’ll escort you!”

Usually I’ll just yell crazy ass shit at them.

“You don’t think it’s that easy to get away from me, do you?? It’s love at first sight!”

“I thought we were going to start a family!!”

“I won’t hit you anymore, I swear!”

“Think of the kids!!”

“How do you know I’m not the one!?”

If they LAUGH or look back, I’ll chase after them and re-open. If they completely don’t react I may let it go. That’s just my personal thing though – being a comedian I’m always screening for girls that find me funny. If they don’t, it’s a real turn off sosometimes I simply won’t bother. But, I always, always test to see if they’re cool. If they give me Ioi’s, great. If I think I’ve got a shot, I go for it and re-open! (And often I go for it even when I don’t think I’ve got a shot!)

But remember: girls walking away from you in the day time means NOTHING if it’s right after your opener. WHAT the girl does is just as important as WHEN she does it. If she walks away after your opener, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you. If you talk to her for a few minutes and then she walks away – that’s a much better indicator that she may not be interested. This is very similar to something I wrote in a previous article. I wrote that if a woman tells you she has a boyfriend immediately at the beginning of the interaction it means almost nothing – as it can (and probably is) her standard line to get rid of guys. But if she talks to you for 10 minutes and it comes up, it’s probably true. Do you see the difference?

So, if you’ve spoken to a woman for a couple of minutes and they walk away – it’s a little more significant. Even then that happens; you can still apply everything that I’ve just said. You may have said one thing they didn’t like. Maybe she really is late for something. Maybe she just didn’t know how to deal with you and it was easier to walk off. REEEEEE-OPEN!

You know all those typical scenarios in romance movies and films: Where the guy is after the girl and she doesn’t like him but he keeps on and on and on and eventually she relents and he gets his way? Guess what folks: that isn’t just Hollywood bullshit. That’s one aspect of male/female relations that Hollywood is not romanticizing. THAT’S HOW IT WORKS! The man chases the woman. And one thing I’ve figured out from my many interactions with women is this: their respect for you goes UP when you really persist and try and get the girl. A giggle and a back turn means try again. A laugh and a smile as they walk away means “I AM NOT EASY! TRY HARDER”

The “anti slut defense” which has been written about much in the community applies during the day. By showing interest in you too easily, they feel slutty. This is one of the primary reasons girls run away from you as you approach. They don’t want to feel that you’ve won them over easily!

They just want to feel special. They want to feel that you really want THEM! Remember my personal motto – NO MEANS NOW! That’s right – if she says no STRAIGHT away, re-open her NOW! Believe me, when they won’t want to talk to you anymore, they’ll let you know.

Sometimes I have re opened a woman up to FOUR TIMES (could have been five) before getting her number. But, every time she was smiling, and walking away.: Remember: only do this if you are still getting ioi’s. If she makes a grumpy face and tells you to fuck off…. Well, that means it’s time for your next approach ;)

The moral of the story is this…. Girls walking away from you is NOT always an indicator of disinterest. And the way to find out for sure is…. RE-OPEN! What are you worried about? What, they might walk away from you a second time? Who cares? Don’t you want to KNOW if you can get her? If you’ve put the time and effort into going out there and actually approach women that you don’t know… surely you want to put in 100%? I can’t stress how important this concept is – GIVE IT YOUR ALL! Do you know what that means? It means

Good luck, and happy hunting!

p.s Can you guess what 2 words come out of my mouth the MOST on bootcamp? Oh man… you guys catch of fast… ;)

Sasha.

Another Direct vs Indirect debate

What’s interesting here is that what’s being described here is “Semi direct”

Indirect game – though you open indirectly, you still keep your intent hidden for several minutes until you get IOI’s from the girl.

This however, is NOT simply indirect! Sure, you’re opening indirectly. But you’re going direct after. Here’s why this can be VERY effective

Many times, women will simply run away from you, even when they are attracted to you. That’s a fact. I’m not going to go into the reasons for that here, because I’ve just written a big fat ass article about that. The link is here:

http://www.thelss.com/forum/index.php?topic=18352.0

However, if you open up with some lame ass shit (please, be looking for something other than a motherfucking starbucks people) … where’s the originality?? Where’s the spontaneity?? Be looking for a place to buy a container to hold a genie! Or a shop that sells utensils for midgets. If she knows where the starbucks is she’ll say “just there! see ya” … COME ON GUYS!! USE THOSE NOGGINS!

Anyways – but if you get her to stop for a moment and then say “ok, it’s a big fat fucking lie, you’re stunning and i wanted to talk to you” it can work great BECAUSE – she’s already listening. There is a HUGE DIFFERENCE between opening direct when someone isn’t really paying attention (because you’re not in a conversation) and delivering something like this after they’re listening to you.

HUGE HUGE HUGE

And for newbies – this extra edge may be exactly what they need to gain critical momentum in their daygame success

I do this only occasionally, depending on the situation – but this is an EXCELLENT way of getting into the habit of a)opening sets on the sttreet and b)telling girls you think they’re fucking hot

after doing this for a while, most guys will think “fuck it” and you’ll just start going direct. But it’s a great way of going about things – and it’s a great stepping stone to going direct.

If you haven’t tried this at least 10 times, you should!!

Tony77 – Yes, that is correct! It took Yad and I thousands of sets to discover this – and yet still most guys are not putting this information to good use! This should be incorporated into all day game sets no matter what method you are using to open. You CAN walk right up to girls, but it doesn’t work as often. Hell, you can walk right up to women, grab them and tell them they’re fucking stunning in the broad daylight and some will not freak out – but this is much more effective at night game. I think I covered a lot of that in my semi ultimate opening article back in aug:

http://www.thelss.com/forum/index.php?topic=15336.0 (read the 2nd (full) version, not the first one up top)

Right then.

That’s my 2 cents.

Just kidding. ;)

Well, kinda.

Someone posted this question on here a few days ago – I can’t find the thread but I ended up writing this big ass response. I’m going to turn it into an article so please – any suggestions/comments/criticisms please reply to this. (this goes for noobs + lurkers too) – don’t be shy! (Dont’ bother yelling at me for spelling/grammer as i’ll get to that eventually)

right, here goes….

An interesting thing I’ve found is, some girls that clearly like you will not give you their number because it is simply an automatic response to all these loosers asking for their number. (Often as an opener!) …. A “no” from a girl about getting their number is pretty much an automatically generated response. Yes, sometimes it means they just don’t like you enough to give you their number – but not always.

Assuming there is enough interested/comfort for them to want to give you their number- the key to get past this auto response mechanism is to get their number without directly asking for their number.

(If there’s enough attraction/comfort really this shouldn’t be an issue, but sometimes it still happens…)

Essentially – You need to get their number without actually asking for it. But even before we get to that…. To increase your chances of getting her number, have more comfort! Try and go for longer sets. Shoot for 20 minutes but at least 10. Get them to invest, talk a lot about themselves. If they haven’t invested, there’s no reason to see you again. (No, sex isn’t usually a reason, but sometimes it can be)

Sometimes you can meet a girl, decide you’re going to meet up for sex and they won’t flake. But, many conditions have to be in play. You have to be very sure of yourself during this interaction. You have to project a sexual vibe. The girl has to be quite open and in most cases you’d have had to build enough trust where she’ comfortable meeting you for sex. But, unless you are at a reasonable advanced level, you will not be meeting a girl for prearranged sex for a day 2.

That being said, your best strategy is:

Make a date with her and just exchange number’s in case someone is late. This is called a time bridge (credit: Mystery) … You should always strive to do this as it is extremely effective. Partially, It’s a good idea to get her to commit to actual plans instead of the wishy washy “let’s meet up sometime” or “I’ll give you a call sometime.” How many times do you think they’ve heard that and had a guy not call? Plenty. By making specific plans you really strengthen the reality that you two are going to meet up.

Furthermore, it’s a lot more socially awkward for her to cancel it (esp after you qualify her on being the type of person that goes thru with things) than it is to just show up, even if she’s not sure. Girls want to avoid feelings of awkwardness. So, if her fear of the date being awkward is about a 5 on a scale of 1 to 10, and her fear of awkwardness for cancelling on you is a 7 – it’s easier just to show up and see what happens.

If she likes you but is saying “ooh uuhh, I dunno” I like to slip in one of the following lines. “I promise not to call you 25 times a day.” …. Or “I’m already stalking 3 girls, I don’t have time for another!” (Credit, me!) … these are lovely little lines I used to use all the time back when I was starting out. I’ll still throw them in here and there but they get less necessary as your game improves. A quick laugh raises their state and puts them at ease – generally enough to get the number.

Note: If you have to use one of these lines to get her number, she’s more likely to flake on you than if you didn’t.

This next little addition is probably the best one out there for getting a girls number. I didn’t come up with the overall concept, but the hilarious lines are of course 100% Sasha ™

Just say “ok, let me put my number in your phone in case you’re late (or if without a date planned so she can call you when she’s doing something fun” … but then say “I only answer when I know who’s calling – so I’ll just give myself a missed call” and dial yourself. That’s the 100% way to get their number. I don’t actually like being that forceful, (and calling myself from their phone kinda feels like cheating: I’ll just say “hey, give me a missed call so I know who’s calling. I have an ex GF who’s still stalking me so….”

It would be weird pulling this move if she’s already refused to give her number, as assuming she’s not retarded she’d know what you’re up to. My solution for this: Simply get her number this way every time. Don’t even ask for their number! It’s literally full proof. I honestly can’t remember a time a girl said “oh no, I don’t feel comfortable you having my number. Once a girl gave me a funny look and said “ah, nice move” or something but that’s it. Then she still gave me her number. Maybe one other time it didn’t work but I can’t remember it as works virtually ALL the time. If you want to break down why this works so effectively – not only are you bypassing their “no” auto-mechanism – you’re really using compliance to your advantage:

When you say “take my number, put it in your phone” … of course she agrees. Who wouldn’t? It’s harmless for THEM to have YOUR number. However: once she’s already accepted that some sort of number exchange is taking place she’s already accepted that she’s interested in some way. She’s complied. So it’s a very small further step for her to just press talk on her phone so you have her number as well.

Cha-ching. Money baby!

Now, there’s only one thing better that meeting a girl, getting her number, making a date and then meeting up with her in the future – and that is … (drum roll)

Going for a date with her right then!

So many guys don’t even have the “insta date” in their repertoire. What gives?

Why are you making plans to see a girl later who is at the moment, standing right in front of you? What are you, stupid?

Hey, are you spontaneous? Cool – what are you doing right now? Pff, you can do that later. Let’s go get a cup of tea. You’re buying!”

“Hey, do you like adventures? Awesome. Let’s go for a walk and see if we can have some fun!”

Simple, isn’t it? Suffice to say, if you hand around with a girl for an hour and show her a great time, the above paragraphs will be totally unnecessary. She’ll want to give you her number to see you again anyways.

This works, I ain’t kidding! Master these simple concepts and you will (at the very least) have a phone full of girls who won’t return your phone calls. Hahaha – and at best, you’ll be able to go out there, instant date a girl and bring her right back to your bedroom! (no, I’m not going to cover THAT part in this article. Suckers!!) :P

Good luck, and happy gaming!

Let me break it down for you.

You see some tasty little biscuit, hopping along merrily. So cute and carefree. Yippppe. You open her with your latest gambit … but she quickly excuses herself – and buggers off. You never even got a chance to get to know her, or her you. :( …. Sound familiar?

Well – I think I have broken down the necessary missing piece of the puzzle. Of course, there is no real “solution” … some girls just aren’t having any of it. But, mastering this one key principle can drastically increase your chances of hooking a set.

“BAaah!!” you say. “We know about hooking. It’s an old concept. You open, get to hook point, and then go on with the sarge, building comfort, qualifying etc… get the hell out of here with your hooking!!”

Ok, I hear ya. But HOW do you hook the set? A lot of guys KNOW what a hook point is – but they are nevertheless not hooking their sets! What qualities make it a solid hook? What do you talk about? What emotions should you be expressing? What should you be sub-communicating?”

These are the questions I’ve sought to answer with this article.

Right. Now, let me introduce you to a word that you don’t often hear in the community.

Banter.

Yeah. Banter. Chit chat. Small talk. Yitter – Yatter. THAT is really one of the key elements here.

Most guys go straight from the OPEN to comfort! Or maybe from opening to attraction. But guess what – this normal doesn’t work and the conversation normally goes like this:

PUA “Hey baby, you’re so cute, I had to come over and talk to you!”

Girl “Aww that’s sweet! Hehe!”

PUA “So, what’s your name? Where are you from?”

Girl “Uhh, I’m really late – I gotta go”

Say bye bye.

What happened? Why girl say bye bye??

Because

1. those are terrible afc things to say that every guy says and you seem an unoriginal sort of fellow – the woman is already bored
2. it feels like a pickup (worse, an unoriginal one)
3. Mainly – WHY is she going to answer your questions?? Who are YOU?? Why would SHE prove herself to you, or answer your queries? Is there a little booth with an “I” over her head?? Sure If you’re bill gates, she would do it. If you’re wearing a $5000 suit, maybe. If you roll up with two Underwear models by your sides, it might also work.

But, chances are, you’re just a regular Joe, not swimming around in oodles of cash at your Seaside mansion. So – you need to demonstrate value early (immediately) and effectively so that she’ll stick around long enough for you to get to know her. Right?

Right.

So – Banter, folks! The key words after Banter are FUN. INTRIGUE and PASSION.

Something where you create DRAMA. Something so exciting that you actually PULL the girl into YOUR reality.

Now I want to be clear, this is NOT a DHV story!

Apon meeting a girl, you should almost immediately go into whatever interesting drama that has JUST HAPPENED to you or is FRESH ON YOUR MIND!!

In doing this, you’re demonstrating that you’re a fun, passionate person. That you have personality – that you are excited about life. That you have pizzazz!! (wow, I’ve actually used the word pizzazz! I am so disco!)

When you put this across – you ARE showing higher value anyways – but I just wanted to differentiate between the classic mystery method idea of DHV’ing and what I’m trying to put across – which is really just being a fun person, interesting, passionate person…

So – what can/should your hook be? That’s the beauty. It can be absolutely anything. Something that happened to you that day is best, or that week. The more recent the better. Again if it’s fresh and exciting to YOU, it will be exciting to the girl. It can be something that happened to you ages ago – but preferably only if you’re a good actor ;)

Ok some examples

(A classic)

Hey you won’t believe what just happened! Some guy just grabbed my butt on the street!! I couldn’t believe it! After I rejected him he wanted to buy me a DRINK! Can you believe that!! Is this a GAY area? Do I LOOK gay? What the hell?

(From one of my comedy routines)

Hey! I just went to Burger King and I had to get a token to take a POO!! How humiliating!! Can you believe iT!! There are a few things in this world I though I’d never have to pay for…and pooing is one of them!! (transition: “I know. I get pretty angry over the little things! Haha… so what drives YOU girls crazy??”

(One of mine based on a comedy routine)

Hey guys!! Don’t go that way – there’s Christians trying to convert people! They’re giving away free tea – but the price is, they try and sell you on jesus! Don’t go!! Unless you love jesus already – then it’s ok, hehe! It’s so weird, the religious people follow me around EVERYWHERE!! Everywhere I go, they’re right behind me!! It’s like they’re stalking me!! You guys are adorable, I’m sure you know what I’m talking about ;)

Or simply:

“I just bought this sandwich for 6 dollars, and it was terrible! It’s like 2 pieces of bread with some lettuce! Should I bring it back? I feel cheap returning a sandwich but I hate being ripped off!”

It really, really can be anything – As Long as

You come in with high energy – not even necessarily HIGH energy. As long as you are enthusiastic! Enthusiasm is contagious. This works whether the set is high energy or low energy….. If they are like totally chill, you want to have just a bit of a buzz around you. If they are excited, you can come in a bit excited…. If you try and “out excite” someone you may just freak them out. Remember: You’re not trying to impress them with your raw energy – you want to put across that you are really excited/outraged about something that has just happened! PASSION is the key word here!

As long as you’re having fun, and are genuinely interested about whatever you’re going on about, you should hook the set. After that, you just have to transition properly. So if they are into what you are saying, laughing etc all it takes is

“Hey, you guys have a sense of humour! I LOVE peeps with a sense of humour…you guys are my PEOPLE!! … So, what are you guys up to …

“Hey, you guys are cool! I love people who can appreciate the drama that is my life. Haha. So…. Anything crazy happened to you recently?”

And then you’re off to rapport building / qualification land

Remember: you’re trying to get their genuine attention, which is better than situational attention. I.E – If you’re outraged at some crappy sandwich you bought (although this is situational) you can really be ranting about it – you can create drama – you got ripped off!! You paid for a shitty sandwich!!! By the way, the hook CAN be the opener.

Sometimes I’ll just go right into whatever my drama is and that’s perfectly fine.

One guy asked me “but how do you transition into the hook??” and I put it to him that

you hardly even need to transition.

Let me ask you this. The last time some really crazy shit happened to you (you had your car stolen, your best friend got shot in the leg,

Did you need to “transition” to tell people about it?

If you won 10 million dollars in the lottery, would you need to transition to is? LIKE HELL!

You’d be running around like a chicken that’s just had it’s head chopped off telling everyone around

“I WON!!! I WON!! I WON TEN MILLIONS DOLLARS! WOOOOOOOO!”

You didn’t need a transition – you could open with that. You could ask someone for a piece of cheese, then say

“HA! Who CARES ABOUT CHEESE! I JUST WON TEN MILLIONS DOLLARS! WhOOPEEEEEE”

In fact you wouldn’t even care about the cheese, would you? Even if you were hungry… you’d be too caught up in the moment!

You don’t need a transition or an opener if you’ve got the right vibe – Your experience, and your energy itself is the alpha and omega. It’s all that there is. Your VIBE is omnipotent, omniscient and all deserving

You are in your own world.

No, scrap that

You ARE the world.

So yes, you can go from “OMG you’re bloody well adorable!”

to

You won’t believe what just happened to ME! …. (Hook story)

or simply

You won’t believe what just happened to ME! …. (Hook story)

They key is to tell your story about your shitty sandwich with the same enthusiasm as if you’d just won ten millions dollars.

When you get that down, and you can get womens (yes, womens as Richard Pryor would say) excited about your dilemma about a fucking sandwich, you can get them excited about YOU.

Coming in straight with the hook works really well, because it gets that intrigue going right away – however, a purely situational opener such as “hey! that’s the coolest dress I’ve ever seen, it’s awesome!” can crash and burn easily… because the woman can just say “hey, thanks!” and keep walking. Interaction over! But when you’re ranting excitedly over some thing, this or that – you’re immediately pulling the girl into YOUR world. Also you’re adding value – You’re actually trying to put something across that she doesn’t already know (like that she has nice clothes, or that she’s HOT) so there’s a reason for her to stick around momentarily. Especially if she’s being entertained. Women LOVE to be entertained. Most of them are, in fact, BORED!!

Quick note here on (a type of) sub-communication:

When you’re hooking these sets what you’re sub communicating with your excitement is that you’re a PASSIONATE man. I mean if you’re creating this much FUN because you paid too much for a sandwich, how much fun would you be to go on a date/hang out with if you were going to go and do something that was actually interesting??

When you get this down, you really can hook every set, hard, fast and DEEP. You can have so much fun with a girl in one minute that her friends cannot DRAG them away from you.

BANTER PEOPLE!

FUN

PASSION

INTRIGUE

Enjoy yourselves! ;)

In this article, I will attempt to address the reasons why guys fall back into this frustrating pattern of non approach – and set out some recommendations I’ve developed over the past 2 years to minimize the risk of loosing those hard learned skills…. Here goes!

Now, what are the reasons that guys have licked AA would loose their skillset?

One major reason is simply that guys only make approaches during designated times – so when they decide they don’t have time to “Sarge” they stop approaching, and rapidly loose their skills.

Guys seem to be under the misconception that they have to put time aside to go out there and meet women. Although this may be logical when it comes to, say, doing laundry…. It certainly doesn’t when it comes to approaching women. You need to set apart a time when you’re allowed to approach women? When, exactly, are you not allowed? When is that last time you walked past a sign that said “No approaches please”

I wouldn’t want to live in THAT country!! :P

You success rate is not determined by whether you decided you were going to go “sarging” that day or not – In fact, I’ve always found that the first few approaches I make during the day tend to have the greatest success as they seem to be the most genuine.

Some guys say “oh, I’ll be rusty because I haven’t done an approach lately” … yea so…. Surely that’s even more reason to do the approach!

The real secret is, not to separate “sarging time” from any other time. To be a man of PASSION that is driven by his desires! How can you not approach a woman that you TRULY desire? What’s the matter with you? Stop living in FEAR!

Other popular excuses

“I’m not sarging today, I have other stuff to do”

“I don’t have time to approach her”

“she’s not that hot anyways”

“I’m not in the mood”

“she looks busy/bitchy”

Stop that!! You can approach any woman, any time, any place. It is only in your mind that barriers exist. A huge proportion of guys simply have to get out of that pickup mentality. “We’re going to the club, to go meet girls” …. You don’t have to go ANYWHERE to meet girls!

They key is, creating opportunities in everyday life situations to meet women.

When you shop for food at the grocery market, don’t just get your food, go to the first till and pay. Look around the store. Are there any cute girls? How far into their shopping are they? Are they in are they in a rush? How long till they get to the front? Try and time it so that you’re behind them in the lineup. Then talk to them! Personally, I like to make jokes about whatever’s in their basket. If they’ve clearly got ingredients for a romantic dinner for two, I’ll be like “hmmm, single huh?” or “Romantic dinner for one?” … or if it’s like a bottle of wine and a sandwich I’ll make fun of that. “awwwww somebody’s a lonely bunny. Do you need a hug? Or ….. “Awww how sad. Do you need a boyfriend?” – or whatever comes to mind.

If you go to a restaurant with a friend – do you just take the table that the server gives?? Not me – I’ll check out the whole place and get seat next to come girls! Then I’ll start up a chat about what they’d guess is not poisonous, or what’s good if they’ve eaten there before – whatever!

When you get on the subway, do you just get on the first train, and take the first seat available? Forget that! – I’ll try and run along and check out if there are any hotties on the train. Then I’ll go and sit next to them! If the carriage I’ve chosen doesn’t have any cuties on, I’ll get off at the next stop, and get on the next carriage … and so on and so forth till I’m in a position to enjoy my journey with the company of a lovely lady! I’m ALWAYS looking for opportunities to meet women. But you have to create those opportunities!

Some of the greatest sets I’ve had were on planes/trains on girls I’ve sat next to: these are FANTASTIC places to start up conversations. You’re sitting right there next to them for hours at a time! Hint: Take it easy and avoid the direct approach on these spots. Getting blown out at the start can make for an awkward journey. :P

When you’re walking down the street, no matter WHERE you’re going, and you see a hottie, go and talk to her! Tell her how you feel. Incorporate the fact that you’re on your way to something to the opener. BLAME her for making you late!! It’s her fault for being so hot….. be honest! What the fuck is stopping you? “HEY!! YOU’RE SO HOT YOU MADE ME SHIT MY PANTS! YOU OWE ME FOUR DOLLARS FOR NEW UNDERWEAR!!” … or just tell her the truth. “I’ve go this rule, I talk to the first goreous women I see every day – it makes life exciting. Hi, what’s your name?” Why not? What, you’re going to be late 5 minutes? SO WHAT? MORE EXCUSES!

Personally, I leave a half hour before I need to, when I go ANYWHERE. Because I KNOW I’ll be late. Make it a habit, GIVE yourself time to chase girls. Worst case, you’ll be somewhere early. – It won’t kill you!

So, if you make this a regular life habit you’ll never have to worry about “finding time to game” or “Getting rusty” because you’re never “sarging” and you’ll never get rusty.

This is the transformation you should be aiming for. A complete melding of “the pua you” and the “real you” …. Or more like transformation….

A couple of tips for realistically getting to this place I’m speaking of: To some these will seem pretty simple. To some they may seem near impossible. In either case, sticking to these 2 simple rules will guarantee you results. U just have to push yourself and live by them no matter what.

1) Always approach the first gorgeous girl you see ever day. There are no exceptions. I don’t care if she’s in her house brushing her teeth. You knock on the glass till she comes and opens the window and u tell her how smoking hot she is. I don’t care if she’s on a bus with 250 people crammed in -you talk to her.

2) Play hot girl tag. This is a new thing I just came up with the other day. This is the cure for “I don’t have an opener.” Every time u see a girl, you touch her. Period. Believe me – you start doing this, things will start coming out of your mouth! Just grab her above the elbow and watch the magic happen. As soon as you SEE a girl, you walk up to her and touch her. If nothing comes to you, you’ll always have “tag, you’re it!!” … u can even explain to them you’re playing “hot girl tag” … they’ll be flattered.

Yes, getting into these habits is tricky at first – and it takes some moxy. But once you start doing it, brother I’ll tell you what -It will change your life.

YOU DON’T HAVE TO SET TIME ASIDE TO MEET WOMEN GET THE CRAP OUT OF YOUR HEAD

Live your life.

You will see pretty girls

Go and talk to them!

I haven’t gone “gaming” in months. Not a day has gone by that I haven’t approached beautiful woman. I’m no longer a PUA… I’m just a really, really friendly guy ;)

Sasha is one of Europe’s top Daygame instructors and is back in Toronto for the summer! You can find him on his website sashapua.com

Opening is a strongpoint of mine so I though I’d write an article breaking some of my thoughts and strategies down…. So welcome to

“Sasha’s semi ultimate day game opening guide!”

Everyone is always asking “What’s the best opener?. I know it’s been said before, but I’ll say it again – it doesn’t really matter. If you have a good vibe and you’re smiling anything works. It’s really my overall attitude and fun energy that is getting girls interested in talking to me. That being said, a good opener always helps!

Oh – Keep in mind I very much have my own style for opening. Not all openers suit all types of guys. Calibration may be required ;) Although there’s plenty of ways to open – direct, indirect, non-verbally – my preferred method in the day time is direct/funny or situational/funny or situational/direct/funny. Hah? Situational/funny/direct? What the hell is that? That’s me!

For example:

“Nice shoes. God damn you’re hot, I almost bumped into that signpost!”

Cute, huh? It’s one of my own. In fact, in parts 2 and 3, I’ll be sharing some of my killer openers that have never been shared outside the LSS (my lair) …. So, let’s get started!

Right, opening is important. It’s really important. If you don’t open – you never meet the girl. And I think you’ll find meeting the girl is really of paramount importance when it comes to…. Well, anything that comes after meeting a girl. J

It is my belief that you have to make a tremendous impression in the first 5 seconds of the opening. Otherwise, you’re going to lose the woman’s attention. That’s right – 5 seconds!

Imagine a socially awkward, nervous guy approaching a woman. How long before she recognizes his insecurity and blows him out? Imagine it now for a moment.

“Hey, I uhh… my name… uhhh.”

There. He’s done. To stutter then took about 3 seconds in my head. Maybe 4. By 5 seconds she’s already turned her back on him. So – how do you get her attention? By being original. Even before that, by not having bad body language, coming across as needy, or staring at her tits…. do get your basics down as they are very important. But after that the key is…. being DIFFERENT!

Now: I thought I might mention a few “typical” things guys say to pick up girls, … the few that actually have the audacity to approach women in the day.

Now before I share my super fun awesome openers with you guys – let’s take a look at what DOESN’T work! I’ve spoken to a few ladies on the topic and I’ve come up with the few things that women are hearing from the guys out there that DO have the moxy to open during the day. Unfortunately “balls” doesn’t equal “game” … Here are a few examples:

The #1 afc daygame opener is (are you ready for it…?)

“Hey. I’m a banker. Here’s my card, give me a call sometime. (Wink)”

Yep. There you have it folks. No, I’m not kidding.

No, I didn’t just make that up.

Do I really have to break down why this is absolutely horrifically bad?? What you are saying is this “I’m going to try to impress/bribe you with my money. Even though I am more successful than you, I totally fear you because you are beautiful. Hey. I have no idea how to talk to women.”

Next one: Wow, you’re so pretty. Are you a model?

Uggggh. WOW! REALLY? Yeah really. Hell, this used to be my opener pre game. Why? Because I really didn’t know what to say. The woman is soooo hot, I’m blown away. I didn’t know how to deal with it; most guys still don’t.
This is tantamount to simply saying “I have no clue how to talk to desirable women!”

Another popular one:

“Hi you’re cute. Can I get your number?

or

“Hi you’re cute. Let’s get a drink sometime”

Going for the number straight away (though it may work on occasion) isn’t exactly tight game. Where’s the comfort? Where’s the attraction? Most #’s attained in this fashion will be flakes. But amazingly some girls will give their number out and meet up with you in this scenario. Looking like Brad Pitt would help. At least here you’ve let the girl know that you like her, which is something.

Those of course, are the unoriginal openers that involve talking.

Then there’s the whistling/cat calling. Oh yeah. That gets the ladies turned on.

In European countries (yes, mainly I’m talking about Italy here) men will whistle as girls walk by. In the US, it’s more like “Heyy hot stuff! Looking gooood!” Which is pretty much the same thing. All I can say is this:

I don’t think I’ve ever seen or heard of a women ever, ever, ever turning around after being whistled at by a guy, walking up to them and saying “Say- that’s some nice whistling there. Here, take my number. Maybe we can meet up later and we can see if you can fuck as good as you can whistle?”

Yikes. As I was saying….

An opener should be original, entertaining, and direct. You want to let the woman know you are interested, but in a fun non-needy way that diffuses the awkward tension that might be associated with one stranger approaching another in a public area (for sex.)
At least, that’s my style.

Right – now that’s I’ve covered what NOT to do, I’m going to get into what does work, including my recipe list for what makes a great daygame opener! See you next week!

CONTINUED…

Last week I covered some popular non game openers that should be avoided . This week, Let’s get started on what does work! Now, as promised, here’s my little recipe …

Key ingredients in a Direct Daygame Opener:

1. Getting her attention straight away
2. letter her know she’s hot
3. having fun with it
4. being in the moment
5. being non-outcome dependent

Now let’s go through those….

A. Getting her attention.

So getting her attention right away I’ve mentioned already. This is a very important point. You bore her, she walks away. It’s that simple.

B. Letting her know she’s hot

The next point is letting her know she’s hot. Again, once I found direct there was no going back for me … I absolutely love it. In some situations it will work against you, perhaps. But for daygame pickup I think it’s tremendous and cuts out a lot of bullshit. It saves you time also. If the woman just isn’t up for it, she’ll tell you.

C. Having fun with it

This is probably THE most important thing for me in ANY pickup. If you’re not having fun, what are you doing talking to this woman?? Sure if you’re going purely direct and approaching her for sex, that can work. That DOES work. But that is much more advanced stuff and for most guys not the best place to start day game. By having FUN with your pickups you can get in state and really ENJOY the whole experience. Even if you want to be super direct, being entertaining along the way can be a great help!

D. Being in the moment.

This amounts to two things. First, just going with whatever comes into your head. If you want to say something, it’s probably the right thing to say. Don’t hold back. Don’t be scared to offend or scare the woman off. Obviously if you keep saying the same things that you feel like saying and those aren’t working it maybe be time to figure out what you’re doing wrong and change that. But, as a rule, don’t be scared to say what’s on your mind. Secondly, it means really LISTENING to what the girl is saying… I have this problem myself. The girl is talking, and I get all these ideas of where I could take things next and I blurt them out. It’s try hard… so really LISTEN! If you had something good to say you’ll probably remember it when she stops talking! If you need a moment to recall, just stall! You can get your mouth moving before your brain catches up! E.g “Wow that’s really interesting what you were saying about dolphins…..” (It will come back to you!)

E. Being non outcome dependant.

If you’re only talking to the girl with the intent of trying to get her number, she’ll be able to tell… your outcome should be to have an interesting conversation. To get to know her! If you really take interest in HER and THAT is the reason you’re getting her number – well that’s a different story!! So don’t worry about getting those digits. Worry about enjoying the MOMENT!!

Let’s look at some of my favorite openers and why they are effective. Shall we start with an easy one?

“Heeeey….. (look of recognition/confusion) … I don’t know you at all, do I? Hi, I’m Sasha.”

This one certainly grabs their attention. Once they realize what you’re doing those girls with a sense of humor will appreciate the cheeckyness of it. It’s simple and effective. This one is great because you can easily let her know that you fancy her after it – “Alright. It’s all a lie. I saw you from over there – I though you were so cute and I just had to come talk to you”

Another version involves saying “ok, I see you’re trying to recognize me. Don’t worry, you don’t know me! I just thought you were really cute and I thought I’d come over and meet you. My name is …..”

But for guys who prefer going indirect – you can transition to whatever you like from here. For example “Hey! I see you’re trying to recognize me – Don’t worry, you don’t know me. Hi, I’m Sasha. Who are you? …

Here’s one of my favorites! Probably to this day the most effective opener I’ve (as far as I know) come up with. It’s so good I actually kept it secret for a while….

Sasha “Hey, I think you owe me an apology….”

HB “Why….?”

Sasha “You made me run all the way from that (wherever) over there to tell you that I think you are absolutely stunning….

“I’m a lazy guy. I’m there chilling with my friends. I didn’t want to have to run, I’m allergic to running, haha!”

This is a very powerful opener.

Do you see why? When is the last time do you think this gorgeous woman had a stranger walk up to her and tell her that she owed him an apology for being so hot? It’s pretty balsy. It’s outrageous, it’s funny – but most importantly – It’s DIFFERENT!!!

As soon as you say “Excuse me, I think you owe me an apology” they are shocked and think they’ve bumped into you or stepped on your foot or something…. In Britain this is doubly as effective with English girls as everyone is brought up to be ultra polite. They always ask why… (in a way in kind of lowers their value like a shotgun neg, because they think they’ve messed up somehow – however this is unintentional as my goal was just to get them to STOP!)

Then you hit them with a genuine compliment it blows their minds. I’ve had great success stopping girls on the street this way.

Also, this opener is DIRECT – you’re telling them that they are HOT! Right there in the beginning… and THEN you’re being funny! (I’m allergic to running!) Not only that, you’re mentioning your friends (value) and also you’re sub communicating a LOT here. You CHASED after her. You’re a man who GOES AFTER what he wants. Do you see that? I love it!

Ok guys, that’s enough for now! I don’t want your heads to explode from all the giggles! I hope you enjoyed part two! Next week: Honesty in openers. Yea, you heard me! You’re going to be telling women the one thing you thought it might be better to avoid. THE TRUTH!!

CONTINUED…

Another type of opener is so powerful and so simple it’s almost ridiculous. It’s called HONESTY.

Specifically, in relation to direct openers.

This can be any thought that you think in the moment (i.e a situation opener) such as “hey, that’s the coolest button ever!” but in this case I’m really talking about something genuine. If it doesn’t seem that way, you’ll just be told “it’s just a line”

A lot of guys find their first girl of the day the most difficult to open. How about this:

“Hey I’ve got this rule where I approach the first really cute girl I see. And today, it’s you. There’s no prize or anything. You just get to me meet. Hi, I’m Sasha”

Isn’t that an awesome opener? I just LOVE it! It’s so simple. It’s so GENUINE. And it’s funny!! And direct, too. It’s everything!

If you’re really nervous – tell her!

“Hey. Oh you don’t know me – but I saw you and from over there and I though you were soo cute. And I was nervous about coming up to you. And I’ve got this rule where I do anything that makes me nervous. So… hello there, bringer of fear. How are you?”

Same as above… but if you bring up the fact that you’re nervous when you seem, in fact, nervous it’s congruent. You’ve pre framed her, she can’t say “you seem nervous!” as you’ve already said it.

This kind of an opener shows weakness/tenderness, it’s real, it’s honest. You will never get blown out harshly when you say something like this to a girl. What kind of complete bitch would turn you out for being sincere with her in this way? I don’t want to get to know that type of girl anyways. Would you?

If you’re going to say something genuine that sounds like a line… say you see a girl who you truly believe is the hottest girl you’ve ever seen in the world, you can tell her that. But add in “ok, I know this sounds like a line, but …. you are truly the hottest girl I have ever seen!”

It will come off as genuine because it is. Not only that, she can’t say it sounds like a line, you’ve already said it. It’s kind of like a pre frame. Let me just delve into that for a moment. What exactly is a pre-frame and how can it help you in pick up?

A great example is this: One comic on the London circuit has a massive nose. First thing he does is walk on stage and just let the crowed laugh at his nose. He looks left, right, every which way so that everyone can get a look. Then he says “Don’t you hate it, how in pictures, on certain angles, your nose just looks really big?”

Now nobody can heckle him about his big nose – he’s already beat them to the punch!

If it’s genuine, AND you use the pre-frame, there’s nothing she can say but say thanks … and it’s much more likely to be taken as a genuine compliment. Then you just have to transition into your hook story…

So, if you’re really short your opener might involve a joke about that. Then you’ve acknowledged that you’re short, and also shown that you are ok with it. You’ve shown that you’ve got a sense of humour! You’ve turned dis-advantage into advantage!

On occasion (for the stonking hot women) I’ll go super funny/honest/direct

I’ll tell girls they’re so hot they should be in jail.

“Hey! What the hell are you doing walking around looking that GOOD? Guys are going to be smashin their cars up checking you out, fighting each other on the streets!! ARE YOU CRAZY! They’ll be rioting out there!! And you’re making yourself look ever HOTTER on PURPOSE?? Are you crazy! Loose the make up, at least! Put a paper bag over your head when you leave the house! You’re a MENACE TO SOCIETY!! YOU SHOULD BE BEHING BARS where you can’t cause harm! What the hell is a MATTER with you, woman!??

Again – if you don’t think she’s fucking gorgeous don’t even attempt that move. But if it comes from the heart – why not? It will feel good getting if off your chest!

Whoa! I seem to be going on and on…. Maybe it’s time to bring this baby to a conclusion.

Be honest. Be original. Be bold. BE FUN!!!!

I can sum it up in one quote.

“Judge not, lest ye be judged.”

Oh wait, that quote had nothing to do with it.

“A man can be happy with any woman, as long as he does not love her.”

No wait, that wasn’t it….

“It’s better to burn out, than to fade away!!”

Wait hang on. I’m just getting goofy now. Maybe I got caught up in the moment!

Or maybe I was just having fun! I’ll let you guys decide. :P

Thanks for reading… I hope you enjoyed reading Sasha’s semi ultimate daygame opening guide as much as I did writing it!

p.s The next time you see a girl that’s so hot she made you shit your pants, tell her! She may be more receptive than you think! ;)